Friday, 30 December 2016

A Letter To Me From 2016

Hey you,
So 2016 is drawing to a close and you're starting to drift into deep thinking mode, aren't you?
You're starting to dredge up lost memories from the last year (and the year before that...and the year before that) and over-analyse them, aren't you?

I know you are, because this is what you always do.

With the end of one year, comes the start of another - as one door closes, another opens - as they say. This is like opening a fresh new notebook and seeing the blank pages, pages that you can fill up in whatever way you choose.
And if you decide to rip pages out, draw silly pictures and scribble out some words, that's ok.
Because it's YOUR book, no one elses.
Your book to make corrections, to start afresh, and to learn from some of the things that made you so unhappy this year.

2016 was a mixed bag. Not all bad, not all good. 
Laughter mixed with memories, experiences, and lots of salty tears you tried SO hard to hide but couldn't escape from.
So many tears you could fill ten buckets.

2016 has shaped you, it's taught you that you CAN say no, that you CAN stand up for yourself and that you CAN make a difference. 
2016 has taught you that there is no such thing as a life plan, there is only time. 
Time can erase all manner of hurts, fears and trepidations. 
Changes have happened; they haven't always been good but they have been necessary. 
Life lessons have needed to be learnt, and they have. The hard way.

2016 is one year, so many have come before it and so many will follow. It's up to you how you choose to live them.

My advice to you though, is stop putting pressure on yourself. 
You've achieved more than you think, you just can't see it yet. Those tiny steps you've made are steps in the right direction. Those steps will carry you in the direction you want to take, and set you on your way to making the life for yourself you've always wanted, you just can't see it yet.
But you will.

All I ask is this: stop feeling so guilty; you can't do everything all the time. You can only do what you can, the best you can. 
Water your own flowers, stop comparing. It's destroying you. 
Stop tearing yourself to shreds because you still don't feel like you know what you want to do with your life, or because your journey hasn't taken the same path it has for your friends.
All you can do is take a deep breath, realise all that you HAVE achieved, and keep moving forward. 

Oh, and stop trying to please people. Please yourself sometimes.
Don't let social media rule you, make your own rules.
(A little time away won't kill you)

You know who you are inside, you've always known. You've allowed your edges to get worn down to shape you into something you know you're not. 
Don't let that happen.



  1. Such a lovely letter Lucy! I also really need to stop pleasing people and comparing myself to others. Let's hope 2017 will be a better year! :)

    X Marjolein

    1. Thanks Marjolein! I think so many of us are guilty of these things, lets hope we have a great 2017!

      Lucy x


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